Sixty years and one more just a few months down the road. Every day I'm reminded that I have fewer days ahead of me than lie in my past. I like to think I've made peace with this fact but I could be deluding myself. I know what it's like to think I'm about to die and it ain't a pretty sight. I've made up my mind to pass peacefully in my sleep, as if I had any say in the matter. And yet for some reason I feel it can be no other way. I hope it's not. Nothing else sounds good.
I see a psychiatrist every few months. She had convinced me to stop smoking marijuana and even though it's been hard, even though it's now legal, medicinally where I live, I have done as she's asked and in a couple of months it will be exactly 2 years since I imbibed. Not that she's the only reason I stopped. My wife didn't like it. If I were being honest I'd have to admit that the last month or so when I smoked regularly I was beginning to act strangely. The paranoia was taking root. I still feel some of the after effects, though I'm unable to give much of a description of what those effects entail. It doesn't matter. I feel better, even if I've lost the excitement and insight that getting high afforded me.
This psychiatrist has sort of a form questionairre that she usually trots out asking me more or less to rate how often I've felt normal, as compared, I suppose, to being schizoaffective/bipolar. Most of the questions are easily answered but the last one is tricky. It's the one that wants to know if I feel as if I would be better off dead and, consequently, if I've had thoughts of ending my life. I always answer in the negative and it's true, I don't think about killing myself. I don't really want to die. I like to read too much, there are too many books and authors I want to read, I'll never have enough time in what I have left to touch all of them. And I still love music, even if I'm currently fascinated by Black Metal...not that I listen to it exclusively, I don't think I could do that, but for a couple of hours every night before I go to sleep I will play BM on Spotify and it seems to condition my brain to have interesting dreams. If there's any kind of music that would provide a perfect soundtrack for desolation, isolation and thoughts of suicide, it's Black Metal. One subgenre that I enjoy is evcen called DSBM: Depressive Suicidal Black Metal.
Listening to this stuff, most of which promotes Satanism and at the very least anti-Christian sentiment, is somewhat conflicting because even though I don't feel like much of a Christian these days (I feel ostracized from the community of believers because I don't think I'm 100% on board with their dogma and I think the religion has been diluted to the point where it's hard to recognize the real thing, and I certainly am not the one to know that "the real thing" actually is), nevertheless I do believe I'm a forgiven Christian, it's just that it's hard for me to believe in the versionS of Christianity that have been presented to me.
The last two and a half years have seen me back in a mental ward on more ocassions than I care to count. I had a good run of well over 10 years when my medication was keeping things in balance (of course I was smoking marijuana most of that time, too, so that could have been either beneficial or perhaps I could have felt even better had I not been). Then I decided to go to a facility that I was under the impression would provide help for my sleep issues (insomnnia, later developed into sleep apnea). What happened at that place was like a living hell on earth that I don't even want to try to describe, as if I could. Apparently I had a psychotic episode while I was there.
It took some time to get over this episode after leaving this place and I continued to get high. From the way things looked this marijuana usage tended to exacerbate what I thought were further, oncoming psychoric episodes (whether they were or not I don't know, I just felt it best to err on the side of caution). I had myself voluntarily commited to a hospital. Not long before this first visit I'd learned about COVID, when it first came to light on the evening news. I'm guessing my first commital corresponded with the first major nationwide outbreak of the Coronavirus. It was weird. I was there for a couple of weeks which seemed like much longer, and on the trip home 50 miles from the City I had to wear a mask for the first time in my life. Then, when I got home I was expected to quarantine for 5 days alone in the bedroom. No problem. I'm an isolated person anyway, for better or worse.
Anyway it was expected that I find a psychologist and do thererapy as part of my treatment. At first I was on board. There was a place in a small city 25 miles from home which offered services so I made an appointment to do an intake. When I got there they paired me with a young woman who could not have been over 30 years old. She couldn't have been in practice for very long but it wasn't so much that she was young but I felt I needed an older MAN who might understand me better. Perhaps my expectations or understanding of what the therapy would entail were skewed but what made me decide to absolutely NOT do this therapy was when the psychotherapist asked me if I believed in God.
Part of me was aghast that this would be a consideration for psychotherapy. I suppose I over-reacted in regards to that, it probably says a lot about me. I'm sure it does. But when she asked I could only think about church people and denominations and such that I couldn't square with what I believed God truly was. In other words, I think I believed in God but this was probably not the same God that most Christians or even religious people believe in so I just answered "No."
Ever since then I've felt a bit haunted by that response. It comes back at me when I listen to music that is vehemently anti-Christian and makes me wonder what it is I find in this genre that I am relating in such a strong way these days. Why do I no longer feel like reading the Bible? Why can't I even make myself pray? I remember once, a couple of years ago when I was trying to find a church congregation to "hook up" with I went to my old church (before I initially lost my faith), the Methodist church, and I took communion and when I went to pray after recieving the "wine" I could only think of one thing to say, "Oh, Lord, please open my mouth". I don't know exactly what I meant by that but I'm guessing it has to do with my stubborness in regards to prayer. I can't help but wonder, in my heart of hearts, if Jim Morrison was right when he said "You cannot petition the Lord with prayer".
I have confessed Jesus Christ as Lord and Saviour. But on the other hand I have explicitly stated that "I don't believe in God". I am afraid that this makes me apostate and if such is the case...well, I guess that's not the best place to end this bit of confessional rambling but circumstances dictate that I wrap it up now. Perhaps later.